with Kat De Shields

culturyn [kuhl-cherin]

NOUN
1. The quality in a person or society that arises from a concern for what is regarded as excellent in arts, letters, manners, scholarly pursuits, etc.;
2. Development or improvement of the mind by education or training;
3.The behaviors and beliefs characteristic of a particular social, ethnic,or age group;
4. Kat's thoughts on all of the above. 

 

Since I was a little girl, my curiosity and adventurous spirit has been the compass that guides my life. I’m always investigating and exploring. Sometimes this gets me into trouble, but most times I discover something wonderful about the world around me or some deeper part of myself I never knew existed. Indie games and books that fill my heart with a sense of wonder and understanding. A failed marriage unearthing a strength in me I never knew was there. Wisdom collected from an animated tv show or watching nature do its thing outside.There are endless opportunities to learn and grow, if only we step outside of our normal way of doing things.

This blog isn’t all about roses and unicorns. It’s about collecting experiences, no matter how beautiful or ugly they may be, and shaping them into something worthwhile. It’s about truth and open-mindedness. The world can be a shitty place, but there are things we can do in and of ourselves to be better and therefore make it better for others. I believe this process includes four areas of concentration:

Nurturyn

Become a Better You | Self-Improvement/Motivation

Until you love yourself, so much will be tainted by the shade of self-doubt. In this space, I’ll offer aha moments that helped me accept and love quirky, unique me.

Partneryn

Relearn How to Love | Dating & Relationships

We weren’t meant to be alone. Here, I’ll give you tips on how to find and foster healthy relationships (dating, family, friends) without sacrificing yourself in the process.

 

Discoveryn

Absorb a New Perspective | Book, Game & Movie Reviews

An open-mind is the key to wondrous lands unseen. In this section, I’ll share some of my favorite books and games that have gifted me with a new or deeper perspective on life.

Adventuryn

Remain Ever Curious | Learning Out Loud

Ever want to learn a thing? This area of the site deals with trying new things, succeeding, failing, and all the things you learn in between. Join me for a new project each month.

 

It is my hope that in reading the different sections, you’ll find you have an ever curious and accepting friend in me. One who is eager to help, but more importantly, hopes that the words printed will help you unlock new levels of discovery within you. Happy adventuring, my friend!


 
 

Kathryn "Ryn" De Shields

I was the kind of kid, teenager and adult that never quite fit in. I was too nerdy to be popular. Too sociable to be a proper nerd. Too "white" to be black, and too "black" to be white. Too much of a dreamer to be practical. Too much of a control freak to follow my dreams.

Somehow, I found a way to corner both ends of any spectrum which left a lot of people (nevermind myself) very confused. At some point, I started lobbing off key parts of myself to fit in -- a social chameleon of sorts. I wouldn’t mention my faith in some circles, would avoid anything considered geeky in others, and would slide into being an airhead girly-girl if the occasion called for it (by far, the toughest niche to occupy.) Though I was well liked, I felt lost and utterly alone in the crowd because no one truly knew me in my entirety. It would be easy to blame them for accepting the toned-down, 2D version of me with no questions asked. The truth? I was to blame for putting the validation of others before being who I really am.

It took years for me to adapt to a what you see is what you get (WYSIWYG) lifestyle where I don’t hide any parts of who I am or try to justify the wide swatches of color in my personality. Learning this has enriched my life beyond measure, and I know adopting a WYSIWYG lifestyle will do the same for you, too. Explore the dreams you think are impossible. Allow curiosity to take over and lead you to distant shores. Live. Laugh. Love. This blog is the product of all the lessons and things I collected in the journey to love myself and be confident enough to know that others out there will love me for who I am, too.

Explore every nook and cranny that exists in you, and delight in it. Discovering yourself is a wonderful journey, and it is merely the beginning.